The weather is all over the place this time of year. That has been more than true here in Virginia where we have seen 80 one day only to have the high the next not even reach 40. It was a day like that that I was complaining about in recent days. I was droning on about how cold it was when a friend in another state told me she would trade places with us since their high was just out of the single digits. That got me to thinking about how people tend to only see what is in front of them.
When we were living in New England we would have been thankful to have temps in the 40’s this time of year but now, having tasted the 60’s and yes even 80’s, we want those temperatures instead of the 40’s which are actually normal for this region this time of year. When our son was visiting from Florida my husband and I were walking around in sweat shirts thinking the weather nice. Our son on the other hand went in search of a winter coat because he was freezing.
In a similar instance there have been several times where I would be talking on the phone with my daughter and she would make a comment about the kids being outside playing and I would question the fact that they were outside playing in the dark. She would then remind me they live in Michigan and it was not yet dark there. I guess it is hard to see what is not right in front of you.
I knew a person who was always complaining about her mother. She would go on a rant and go on and on about her mother. One day we were having lunch at a local restaurant and another lady told her that her mother had recently passed away and she would give anything to have a day with her. It’s all about your perspective.
There are times when I allow myself a pity party. It is usually when Don is gone and I get to missing him dearly. On one such day I was surfing the TV channels and feeling sorry for myself when I saw on the news about a fallen service member and I was like Don isn’t “gone” he is just away doing his job. He will come back, which is something some families cannot say. Again, it is all about your perspective.
I look in the mirror and see that I have put on some extra weight over the last year. I am not happy about the weight and I am working in the right direction to fix it. While I am not happy I have gained weight I am grateful we have money for food.
I am sure there are a lot of instances where perspective could come into play. We tend to go through our lives with blinders on and see only what is in front of us. It is not that we are uncaring or self centered, it is just that if it does not affect us personally it is usually not on our radar screen.
There is a Persian proverb that says “I wept because I had no shoes until I met a man without any feet.” Once again it is all about your perspective…